HOSPITAL AFFILIATION STIRS RELBIOUS ISSUE
Move by Beame adm to give multimillion-dollar affiliation to Roman Cath hosp rather than Jewish med coll produces confrontation marked by ethnic and religious charges; under action, Albert Einstein Med Coll will be supplanted by Misericordia Hosp as med operator of new Lincoln Hosp; Einstein is supported in part by Jewish philanthropy while Misericordia is operated by Cath Charities of NY Archdiocese; Cath Charities hosp dir Msgr James Cassidy says Jewish-supported hosps have big share of city's med affiliation contracts at munic hosps while Caths have none; Albert Einstein dean Ephraim Friedman says coll will fight to keep affiliation; Holloman comments (M)