April 6, 1982

''I think there has been quite a drumbeat of criticism that has gone largely unanswered by us with regard to some of the programs that I have advocated and, of course, there is the unhappiness that exists for all of us in the present recession.'' - President Reagan. (A8:3.)

In an effort to avoid a deterioration in Chinese-American relations, Secretary of State Alexander M. Haig Jr. called in the Chinese Ambassador today to urge Peking to accept an American proposal for dealing with the issue of American military sales to Taiwan. Key members of Congress have been told by officials that the Administration would, in the next two weeks, make public its plans to sell Taiwan $60 million in promised American military spare parts, a move that Peking has said would produce a ''retrogression'' in relations because it is opposed in principle to the sale of any military equipment to Taiwan. The State Department declined to provide details of the meeting between Mr. Haig and Ambassador Chai Zemin, but Mr. Haig's decision to intervene personally was seen by Congressional sources as signaling the Administration's desire to avoid seeing relations with China take a turn for the worse. Mr. Chai was reported by a member of Congress as having told him that he is returning to China for consultations.

Although his gubernatorial candidacy is less than two months old, Mayor Koch has quickly won so much support among Democratic Party leaders that, barring unforeseen events, he will control the designating meeting of the Democratic State Committee in June. That control would insure not only his designation as the committee's endorsed candidate but also very likely the ratification of his selection of running mates for Lieutenant Governor and Comptroller. This designation of a full unchallenged ticket would be unusual, for in recent Democratic state history candidates have been selected in primaries rather than by party leaders and gubernatorial contenders. The early Koch majority appears so solid, according to sources within the party, that some of his supporters are threatening to deny Lieut. Gov. Mario M. Cuomo 25 percent of the vote, which would give him a place on the gubernatorial primary ballot, unless he pledges to support the winner of the Democratic primary in the general election.

The losses of the approximately 3,200 federally insured savings and loan associations reached a record $3.1 billion in the July-December period - more than twice the old record of $1.5 billion set in the first half of the year - the Federal Home Loan Bank Board, which regulates federally chartered savings and loans, reported today. Moreover, almost 85 percent of the nation's savings and loan associations suffered losses in last year's second half, more than double the proportion in the similar period a year earlier, the board reported. The board attributed the heavy losses to the ''further widening in the spread between cost of funds and mortgage portfolio yield.'' It added, ''Both increased during the recent semiannual period, but the cost of funds increase was considerably more.''

It's becoming an all-too-familiar saga. The grapevine began to hum last year that the Superior Oil Company was a ripe takeover target. After management began, as one official put it, ''to see its name in print,'' a concerned Superior board approved ''special termination agreements'' sheltering all present and future officers of the company. If outsiders came in, any executive who was shown the door or quit would be consoled with two years' pay. ''It's just prudent business in today's environment,'' a functionary at Superior explained. The prospect of an unwanted takeover bid scares the gold cuff links off some top executives, since if they do not hit it off with the new boss they may be cleaning out their desks. It will not happen like that, though, for the growing number of key officers who have partaken of one of the hottest perks to reach the corporate suite: the ''golden parachute.'' Equipped with this safety device, an executive who is shoved out the door by a new owner will be cushioned by a tidy pile of cash.