IN WELL-MANNERED CITY APARTMENTS
ARLINE FEINBERG learned to bide her time. For 23 years she lived in Westchester with her husband and their two children and waited for the time she would be able to move into Manhattan. While she waited she visited show houses and studied decorating magazines -always looking for the designer who would create the ''perfect'' penthouse for her family's needs. Mrs. Feinberg began her journey to Manhattan in earnest two and a half years ago. As soon as her co-op - a 3,000-square-foot penthouse with an unusual 2,000-square-foot walled-in terrace - was in hand, she proceeded to sell the entire contents of her suburban house. ''Sheets, towels, dishes, flatware, everything,'' she said. ''It was time for a change. I kept only my good china and crystal, and I didn't give away my family photographs.''