HAVING CHILDREN DESPITE ILLNESS
A PORTABLE respirator is in Dorothea Ridenour's bedroom, a $2,500 device that strapped the family budget and was unnecessary until the birth of her son four years ago. In those four years, there have been dozens of trips to the hospital for Mrs. Ridenour, a 28-year-old victim of cystic fibrosis; dozens of times when her son, Charles Jr., stayed with his grandmother in a nearby Bronx apartment, and dozens of sleepless and terror-filled nights for her husband, Charles Sr., a Transit Authority flagman. Mrs. Ridenour's disease, which affects the respiratory and digestive systems and often kills before adolescence, had been under control until her pregnancy. She had been hospitalized only a handful of times, attended school, traveled, played sports, married and worked as a secretary. Then she decided to do the next so-called normal thing - have a child -and managed, as she put it, to ''not quite'' hear the warnings of her doctor, Phyllis Leppert. Dr. Leppert said she did not discourage Mrs. Ridenour's pregnancy but carefully laid out its risks.