Mother and Son Face Questioning in Socialite's Disappearance
New York City detectives step up efforts to find Irene Silverman, 82-year-old Upper East Side socialite who mysteriously disappeared from her apartment on July 5; seek to question Silverman's tenant Kenneth Kimes and 63-year-old mother, Sante Kimes, who were arrested on unrelated Federal warrant on same day, and were found with Silverman's identification; Los Angeles also seek to question Kimeses, who have extensive criminal records, in connection with death of 63-year-old David Kazdin, whose body was found in garbage bin in Venice; photos (M)